{"id":23497,"date":"2025-05-22T03:15:00","date_gmt":"2025-05-22T03:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/chicagodesavanja.us\/ljudi-skloni-osudjivanju-najcesce-su-uplaseni-i-nesigurni\/"},"modified":"2025-05-22T03:15:00","modified_gmt":"2025-05-22T03:15:00","slug":"ljudi-skloni-osudjivanju-najcesce-su-uplaseni-i-nesigurni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chicagodesavanja.us\/en\/vesti\/ljudi-skloni-osudjivanju-najcesce-su-uplaseni-i-nesigurni\/","title":{"rendered":"Da li ste previ\u0161e skloni osu\u0111ivanju? Evo za\u0161to to mo\u017ee biti lo\u0161e po vas"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mnogi ljudi nesvesno upadaju u zamku osu\u0111ivanja \u2013 drugih, ali i samih sebe. Iako se na prvi pogled \u010dini da time gradimo neki oblik za\u0161tite, u osnovi takvog pona\u0161anja \u010desto se nalaze strah i nesigurnost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kada kritikujemo sebe zbog izgleda ili pona\u0161anja, zapravo poru\u010dujemo sebi da vredimo samo ako ispunjavamo odre\u0111ene, \u010desto nerealne, standarde. U romanti\u010dnim vezama, ovaj obrazac se dodatno poja\u010dava \u2013 partnera \u010desto procenjujemo stro\u017ee nego prijatelje, jer su ulozi ve\u0107i. I dok odre\u0111eni stepen procenjivanja mo\u017ee biti koristan, jer nam poma\u017ee da sagledamo vrednosti i kompatibilnost sa osobom, preterano osu\u0111ivanje mo\u017ee naru\u0161iti odnose i udaljiti nas od ljudi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Psihoterapeut John Kim, LMFT, u \u010dlanku za Psychology Today opisuje slu\u010daj klijenta koji je imao \u201esavr\u0161en \u017eivot\u201c \u2013 brak, decu, uspe\u0161nu karijeru i vikendicu, ali se ipak ose\u0107ao duboko nezadovoljno. Koren problema bio je u tome \u0161to je neprestano osu\u0111ivao sve oko sebe \u2013 i sebe samog. Kroz terapiju je otkriveno da je osu\u0111ivanje bilo proizvod straha \u2013 straha da ako drugi ne ispunjavaju njegove standarde, to zna\u010di da ni on sam nije \u201edovoljno dobar\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Re\u0161enje? Svest o sopstvenom pona\u0161anju i rad na nenametljivosti. Nakon godinu dana rada, Kimov klijent je uspostavio dublje veze sa porodicom i kolegama, smanjio obim posla i postao \u2013 kako terapeut ka\u017ee \u2013 \u201estvarna osoba\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Autorka Sammi Caramela otkriva i li\u010dnu borbu sa osu\u0111ivanjem, koje je proiza\u0161lo iz te\u0161kog detinjstva i mentalnih izazova. U poku\u0161aju da se za\u0161titi, razvila je naviku da u drugima tra\u017ei mane, kako bi se sama osetila vrednijom. Ipak, ta navika ju je spre\u010davala da stvara iskrene veze.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Osloba\u0111anjem od osu\u0111ivanja, autorka je uspela da prihvati razli\u010ditosti, kako kod sebe, tako i kod drugih. Danas, kako ka\u017ee, ne ose\u0107a se ograni\u010deno \u2013 pripada svakom mestu koje odabere. Jer tek kada prestanemo da sudimo, mo\u017eemo istinski da pove\u017eemo sa drugima i gradimo zdrave odnose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\" style=\"font-size:10px\">SOURCE: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vice.com\/en\/article\/are-you-super-judgmental-heres-why-thats-a-bad-thing\/?direqtContext=%40direqt.v2%3A%7B~50%3A~64%2C~70%3A%22View+on+web%22%2C~63%3A%22https%3A%2F%2Fwww.vice.com%2Fen%2Farticle%2Fare-you-super-judgmental-heres-why-thats-a-bad-thing%2F%22%2C~64%3A%7B~71%3A%22https%3A%2F%2Fwww.vice.com%2Fen%2Farticle%2Fare-you-super-judgmental-heres-why-thats-a-bad-thing%2F%22%7D%7D&amp;direqtView=true\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">VICE.COM<\/a> PHOTO: PIXABAY<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mnogi ljudi nesvesno upadaju u zamku osu\u0111ivanja \u2013 drugih, ali i samih sebe. Iako se na prvi pogled \u010dini da time gradimo neki oblik za\u0161tite, u osnovi takvog pona\u0161anja \u010desto se nalaze strah i nesigurnost. Kada kritikujemo sebe zbog izgleda ili pona\u0161anja, zapravo poru\u010dujemo sebi da vredimo samo ako ispunjavamo odre\u0111ene, \u010desto nerealne, standarde. 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